Sibling Parents and Losing One’s Childhood
The loss of one’s childhood is almost always a side effect of becoming a parent.
They take on too much responsibility in the family without anyone acknowledging or supporting them. By taking on the role of a parent, the child loses their proper place in the family. They are left feeling lonely and unsure.
A kind of “disembodiment,” which some people have called ‘narcissistic wounding,’ can happen in very extreme cases. This can make one question their basic sense of who they are.
Childhood trauma that isn’t predictable can have long-term effects on the brain. People who had terrible childhood experiences are more prone to mental and physical health issues, resulting in high-stress reactivity.
In one study, kids who were stressed out released a hormone that made their hippocampus. The hippocampus is a brain area that processes memory, emotion, and stress management, shrink. People who a parent has emotionally or physically neglected are also more likely to have long-term illnesses as adults.
TheTrauma of the Absence of an Adult Caretaker
Donna Jackson Nakazawa, the author of the book Childhood Disrupted, says that long-term, unpredictable stress can be bad for a child when there isn’t a reliable adult around. As a science reporter, she looks at the connection between neuroscience and immunology.
Dr. Nakazawa has been doing research into how the body and brain work together. He has focused on studies led by Drs. Vincent Felitti and Robert Anda. As a result, their analysis of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) has grown into a vast field with hundreds of peer-reviewed studies that people can trust. For example: When people who had physical, sexual, and emotional abuse when they were young were grown up, they were two times more likely to get cancer and have depression than people who didn’t have any of these problems.
Effect: Anxiety Over Abandonment and Loss
Parental children are more likely to be anxious about being abandoned and lost later in life, and they have a hard time dealing with rejection and disappointment in relationships. There is a link between childhood stress and heart disease in adulthood, diabetes, migraines, and irritable bowel syndrome, which can be caused by stress.
Researchers say that going through parentification can have some benefits for people later in life. People treated like children may be more resilient and self-assured than people who were not treated that way. People who have had similar childhood experiences have a strong sense of empathy and a better ability to connect with others.
If a child is “parentified,” some studies say it can help the child have a stronger sense of self, be more tolerant of others, and have better attachment styles later in life. These traits may have formed because the person needed to adapt to changes and take on new roles. Cross-cultural studies also show that the practice of parentification is common. This finding means we need to think about both the good and bad parts of parentification.
To sum up, parentification is a big problem that affects people across generations and cultures, and it can cause harm if it isn’t adequately screened (Caplan & Caplan, 2001). There is something in adults that makes them protect kids. However, if parents aren’t around, their instincts fade away, and the child has to deal with unmet needs while in a power struggle. Multiple uncontrollable consequences follow when a parentified child is trapped and confused between caring for and receiving care. Disorientation makes a child unable to speak while holding on to unfulfilled expectations.
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